Poisonous Thought #1 – Thinking You're a Victim
Stop it. You're only a victim is you allow yourself to be. Stop laying blame for your problems on others or your circumstances. If you don't like where you are at any particular time in your life, take responsibility and make the changes necessary to be somewhere else. Drop the victim mentality because no one is going to feel sorry for you, and it does nothing to help your situation. In fact, it actually hinders your success. It's time to realize that you are the only one responsible for your own destiny.
Poisonous Thought #2 – Thinking You Can Change Others
You can't change anyone that doesn't want to change, so stop wasting your energy trying. Just as you are the only one capable of changing you, other people are responsible for making their own changes as well. If you don't like someone "as they are," then it's up to you to decide if you want to be around them, but you don't have the right to try to change them.
Poisonous Thought #3 – Thinking You Can Change the Unchangeable
Resisting "what is" and cannot be changed is a waste of valuable time and energy. For example, You cannot change the fact that you have to pay your rent or your mortgage each month, so why resist it? Furthermore, you can't change that your boss is a jerk, so why bother? Of course, you can change jobs to get away from him, but you can't change who he is. There are a lot of things you have the control to change in your life if you so choose, so take charge and change what you can, and learn to accept the things you cannot change.
Poisonous Thought #4 – Thinking the Grass is Always Greener…
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"If only I were as pretty as my neighbor, I'd have nothing to worry about." Or, "if only I had as much money as Pete, I'd be happier." These kinds of thoughts are destructive, and simply not true. In fact, you really have no clue what their lives are like, and what you think they have being pretty and rich. Who knows? Maybe the pretty neighbor comes from an abusive home, or maybe Pete spends 80 hours or more a week and never sees his family just to have all those nice things. The grass is usually not greener on the other side of the fence, so learn to love the grass in your own yard.
Poisonous Thought #5 – Expecting too Much from Others
Expecting anyone else to do anything is detrimental to your happiness. Even if you think your expectations of them are reasonable, ultimately, you will probably end up being disappointed. For instance, expecting your roommate to do half the chores around the house. Just because you expect them to do it doesn't mean they will. Your expectations aren't anyone else's priority, so decide if you can live with their behavior or move on.
Poisonous Thought #6 – Thinking Someone Else Completes You
If you don't feel complete yourself, no one else can make you feel that way either. Thinking that a romantic partner "completes you" is a falsehood that only ends in disappointment for you, and it puts a lot of pressure on them to always make you happy. You have to learn to be happy with yourself, and if you aren't you have to figure out a way to make yourself happy.
Poisonous Thought #7 – Thinking you Always need to be Right
Thinking you always have to be right about everything is tiring. Fighting tooth and nail to prove your opinion is the right one only alienates other people. It is far nobler to be able to admit you are wrong or that someone else's opinion makes sense. Stop trying to be right all the time and just accept that other people have opinions too.
Poisonous Thought #8 – Worrying what Others Think
If you strive to act or talk a certain way because you're worried what others think, what's the point? Why does it matter what anyone else thinks of you? If you're worried about others judging you all the time, you're worried for nothing because most of the time, no one is judging you at all. In fact, most people are so busy judging themselves, they don't even care what you're doing. So, do what makes you happy, and if anyone judges you for something, that's their issue, not yours. Ignore what they say and be happy despite it.
Poisonous Thought #9 – Thinking there's only ONE Right and Wrong
The world is a diverse place full of different people, opinions and truths. What one person thinks is true is not necessarily true for the next. There is no distinct black and white, no ONE right and wrong. Only shades of gray and subjective realities. What someone perceives as right is only right because it fits with their lifestyle and beliefs. It's as simple as that.
Poisonous Thought #10 – Feeling Unprepared for the Future
You can only control what happens in the future to a certain extent, so it doesn't pay to worry about it. For instance, you can save money so you're financially secure in the future, but other than that, there isn't much you can do, so live in the NOW. Be present for what's happening now and stop worrying about what you can't control.
Poisonous Thought #11 – Equating Money with Happiness
In the capitalistic world in which we live, we value money and achievement above all else. We think that if someone is rich, that person is somehow better than the guy that is not. However, that simply isn't true. Money does not equal happiness. For example, a McDonald's worker may be extremely happy doing what he does and living the life he has, while the millionaire on the other side of the tracks is lonely and sad. Having money is definitely nice, but it isn't what makes you happy. Only you can make you happy.
Poisonous Thought #12 – Thinking the Past dictates the Future
Just because you made mistakes in the past, or happen to come from a poor family doesn't mean you can't improve your future. If you feel you are a failure because of your past, you'll probably continue to fail in the future. If you accept the past as something you cannot change and strive to make positive changes for a better future, chances are good that you'll succeed. The future is what you make it, not what you've left behind in the past.
After reading this list, we hope it makes you think long and hard about the negative thoughts that pass through your mind each day without you even realizing it. Start paying attention to how you think, and if you catch a poisonous thought trying to ruin your positive mojo, put a stop to it FAST!
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